How to Attract a High Value Man
Discover 3 principles to attracting and keeping a great man
Hello Beautiful!
How do you attract a high value man?
Are you tired of attracting unavailable men or guys that just do not turn out to be who they say they are?
My goal is to help prevent you from wasting the best years of your life with men that are not worthy of your time.
I know what it feels like to have children with men that are not concerned with creating a loving family or are not willing to do the work.
I wasted years with men that were unable to stay committed, left when things got rough or cheated.
I’ve seen my kids hearts break from their fathers leaving.
And witnessing this is one of the worst feelings you can ever experience.
Feeling helpless in these moments is something you can never truly understand until you’ve experienced it.
But this pain is preventable.
This can be hard because, you don’t really learn when people tell you something is bad for you.
People tend to learn the hard way and not the first time either.
I know I certainly didn’t.
Adults especially, can only change their behavior after they’ve experienced an excruciating amount of pain.
So if you have, think of these events as blessings and lessons to help you grow.
In this article I’m going to give you the steps you can take to attract a high value man who will love you, who won’t break your heart and who will stick by you for the rest of your life.
These are the same steps that I took to find my fiance, who is devoted, committed, masculine and an amazing protector and provider for our family.
How to Attract a High Value Man
The first thing you need to do if you’re going to find a high value man is to put yourself out there.
Get out of your comfort zone and go out with friends, take them up on their invites and go check out new places.
When you’re out, be outgoing, have fun and try to meet new people.
Just a smile and a “hello” is enough to let someone know that it’s okay to talk to you.
Try to make eye contact and stay away from large groups to reduce approaching anxiety for men.
Another thing you can use is online dating apps, which is where I met my fiance!
I know they have a negative stigma.
But if you know how to use them, you can find that 10 percent of men that are of a higher caliber.
When making your profile, use a bright photo of yourself smiling or doing something fun.
It’s a good idea to show your personality and in doing so, write something specific about yourself and your preferences so that you don’t blend in with the crowd.
Are You a Match?
When you meet someone who sparks your interest, ask questions and attempt to get to know him on an intimate level.
Anyone can talk about things that make you sound fun or even flirty.
A high value man will be attracted to smaller details about you that mean more on a deeper level.
What kind of religion does he practice?
Where does he see himself living in 5 years?
Find out what kind of morals he has.
Share your feelings or beliefs behind your morals and explain why they are important to you.
Finding out what he wants for his future is the most important step to distinguishing if you’re a good fit.
So don’t be afraid to ask questions.
I know it might seem like some questions might push men away, especially regarding marriage or kids.
But you don’t have to put yourself in the questions.
You’re not asking when he wants to marry you or how many kids he thinks you should have together.
Just ask, what his thoughts are on marriage.
Or if he sees kids in his future.
If these types of questions push him away, then you’re better off without him.
Trust me, it is better to find out in the beginning of a relationship that you are not a good fit than after you invested your time, feelings and emotions.
Consider Your Options
When you meet someone you like, lean back and allow him to pursue you.
This is the easiest way to weed out the guys that are just looking for a hookup.
Most of the time, the type of man you may have extreme chemistry with in the beginning will be flaky, never call you or only text you once a week.
He may ask for sexual intimacy too soon before really getting to know you.
I’m not saying you have to sacrifice chemistry to find a good man.
But you may have to be more patient and allow a little more time for this type of chemistry to grow.
You’re not a booty call.
Allowing time for men to prove themselves to you will make it more likely for high value men to come towards you.
Remember your value and what you deserve.
A man that will be there for you through thick, will create a true connection with you often, call you every day and text you every chance he gets.
He will come to see you and do sweet things to make you smile all the time.
Learn How to Say No
Pay close attention to little cues and to your gut.
How he is in the beginning is how he will always be, because men don’t change.
If he’s ever flaky or hard to read, these are huge red flags that you’ll be glad you paid attention to.
If you meet someone you have a strong connection to but the relationship is only causing you pain, be strong.
Let him know he’s not a good fit for you and let him go.
This is going to feel awkward the first few times, but practice makes perfect.
Don’t be afraid to move on.
The only way to prevent future pain is to let go and make room for new love.
Never feel like there are not enough fish in the sea or that you can’t find a better man than one you’ve already met.
There are over 3 billion men in the world.
Don’t worry sweetie, there’s a man out there waiting for a chance to sweep you off your feet.
Setting Boundaries
So, you’ve found a guy that you’ve always dreamed of.
Don’t forget to set some boundaries early on.
Don’t settle on being someone’s girlfriend unless he is fully committed to you.
By committed I mean, he either proposes marriage or professes his devotion to you.
Kindly explain that you are dating with the intention to meet someone that you can settle down with before you become exclusive.
Don’t have sex until you’ve decided you’ve met the one.
The main reason for this is that sex releases “happy” hormones that are intended to make it easy to forgive your spouse after marriage and create pleasure in your relationship.
Having sex when you’re still getting to know someone can make you lose sight of who a man really is and of big red flags when they are waving in front of your face.
If he’s ready to step up to the plate, it’s okay to explain what you require.
When my fiance and I became exclusive, I explained to him that I needed him to protect and provide for our family always and to be a good example for our children.
Explain your true boundaries, your deal breakers, things you absolutely cannot forgive or forget.
For me, one of my only boundaries is cheating.
I can probably deal with other obstacles that may come along.
But cheating is something I know most women can’t seem to move past.
So, be very clear.
Caring for Yourself and Your Partner
When you have finally met the man that expresses his his undying love and devotion to you, don’t lose sight of yourself.
Remember what you have to offer and continue leaning back if you want to be completely taken by him passionately with all of his masculine energy.
Completely surrender and serve with kindness, love, openness and acceptance.
Receive gifts, compliments and allow him to lead the relationship.
High value men love to see you light up from your gratitude and happiness.
It’s in their instinct to chase a feminine woman.
So, just trust that he will continue to be the man that you fell in love with in the beginning.
One of the most loving things you can do for yourself and for your partner is to take care of yourself physically and mentally.
And, also encouraging him to take care of himself.
If you expect to attract a ten you have to be a ten.
Spend time on yourself so that you have an opportunity to learn and continue to grow.
Think of ways your man makes you feel.
Does he give you butterflies, make you feel excited, nervous, make your heart race?
Make it a point to do things to make yourself feel these things.
What activities can you do to make you feel more joy, and fill yourself up?
Learning How to Love
Allow him to show you love the way he wants to and be grateful for it.
Accept his love even if it’s not the way you expect him to show you.
Don’t be a brat, just because someone’s love is different it doesn’t make it worth any less.
At the same time, if he can’t handle you at your worse, he doesn’t deserve you at your best.
Realize that some emotions are triggered from events from our past and not because our partner is a jerk.
Learn to stop and ask yourself what’s going on within yourself before looking outward.
Ask yourself, what’s going on, how are you feeling and why?
Just like you would stop everything at the drop of a hat for someone you love to check on them and their well being.
Take a moment for yourself sometimes and realize that emotions from our past are likely to reappear if you don’t pay attention and deal with them.
The One?
In the end, if you’ve found someone that adds joy to your life, you should consider yourself lucky.
There is no clear cut sign to know that you’ve met your soulmate.
And, you may never know for sure if you are making the absolute best decision.
The only way to really tell is if you feel positive most days.
If you feel like they are sucking the life out of you then, you may need to take some time to look within and see if this is what you want forever.
Visualizing where you will be, what you will look like and how you will feel in five years from now, helps.
When things get rough, you may question things.
But I’m here to tell you to just enjoy each other because you never know how long you will have that person in your life.
If nothing else, remember to be kind to yourself because true love starts from within.
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